“And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.” Luke 11:9-10 (NLT)
I love the resilience of kids.
Kids just don’t give up, do they? Sometimes, as a parent, it drives me nuts.
KID: “Mom, can I have more cookies?”
ME: “No, you’ve had 12 . . .”
KID: “Mom, I really love cookies – can I please have more?”
ME: “I have de ja vu right now – didn’t I just answer that question? No.”
KID: “But I really love cookies. I just really want some cookies . . .” [Please read this as intended: with the cutest voice and the sweetest face in the world, covered with cookie crumbs and melted chocolate . . .]
ME: “Let’s not get all passive aggressive, now . . . don’t use the face. I’m a parent and I have super powers to resist cuteness. No, child. 12 is enough. Go to bed.”
Sometimes, the answer just has to be no. It’s for their good. Kids don’t need everything they want – nor is everything they want the right thing. My kids don’t have the same context and life experience I do. I know where some of the desires they have lead, and it’s not a place they want to go. So, it’s my job to help steer their desires and give them wisdom.
Sometimes, that means 13 cookies is too many in one day. (Ok, maybe 12 was too many too . . . at least I’m trying . . .)
In the moment and in my impatience, I want my kids to stop asking me the same questions I’ve already answered – so I retain some of my sanity – but here is what I don’t want: for them to stop asking in general.
I want them to keep on asking. I want them to come to me for guidance and for wisdom. I want them to believe that I have good things in mind for them. I want them to trust my voice in their lives.
Friends, have you ever asked something of God and heard nothing?
Have you heard no?
Have you seen desires of your heart go unfulfilled?
We experience pain and loss and disappointment far too often in this broken life. I have brought my requests before God only to not get the answer I desire. Sometimes, I ask for the same thing over and over again. Sometimes, in the most dangerous seasons, I give up asking altogether.
If I dig down into my spirit to discover why I do not ask – for healing, for restoration, for the salvation of those I love, for reconciliation, for miracles – it goes back to what I believe about God.
Is God a Good Father, or is he not?
It would break my heart if my kids stopped asking because I have said no in the past – especially when my no was to protect and guide them. It would pain my spirit if my kids did not believe me to be generous and loving toward them. I want them to come to me for everything they need – I am always available. I want only the very best for them.
My no does not change my love, it proves it.
Is God a Good Father, or is he not?
What do you need today? What do you desire? When you close your eyes and dream in the quiet, what do you see?
Scripture says we do not have because we do not ask – and when Jesus was teaching the people to pray, he instructed them to “keep on asking”.
If I believe God is Good, then I will keep on asking. I will ask with the trust that His answer is the right one – the wise one – full of compassion and mercy, with all the context of the God who created the universe.
We do not need to fear the asking because who we are asking of is safe and kind and generous and Good.
We do not need to fear the answer because who is answering is safe and kind and generous and Good.
God is a Good Father, and He wants the highest good for his kids.